Emotional Intelligence Blog

Emotional Intelligence Quote
If you can’t find the right words for a certain situation, just give that person a hug.  Words have the potential to confuse, but hugs never lie.
- From Rohit Modi, Dolphin Energy, United Arab Emirates

Tip/Reminder
Mothers always understand that a hug expresses more than words can.  Surely there are several things your mother (or someone else’s mother) has done that you can appreciate each day this week.

Specific What, Specific Why

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.”
- Hermann Hesse

Tip/Reminder
Each day this week at the end of your workday invest 1-minute in feeling gratitude and appreciate for what you accomplished, who you helped, and how you have moved things forward.

Shift, Feel Appreciation, Send Appreciation

Emotional Intelligence Quote
The past is the creator of judgment.  Without a past, and without your judgment, all people are equal.
- Brent Haskell, Journey Beyond Words

Tip/Reminder
Judgments of yourself or others are comparisons between how something appears and how you think it should be.  Use the Freeze-Frame® technique to get a new perspective.

Time Out, Shift, Activate, Ask, Listen

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“Do not allow the fear of ‘what if’ to ruin the joy of ‘what is.’”
- Melody Beattie, Journey to the Heart

Tip/Reminder
Worry and “what iffing” drains your energy, blurs your thinking,  distances you from others, and destroys your health.  When you catch yourself doing it, use the Freeze-Frame® technique to discover what is better for you.

Time Out, Shift, Activate, Ask, Listen

Freeze-Frame is a registered trademark of the Institute of HeartMath.

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right!”
- Henry Ford

Tip/Reminder
Do you want to reduce your stress, worry, frustration, anxiety, etc.? Be aware of them first. If you want to change what you are being, change your emotions.

What Am I Feeling Right Now?

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“It is easy to be the person you have always been, for it requires no change, no self-reflection, and no growth.  It may appear that changing yourself requires giving up something.  In reality, there is no need to give up anything — you must simply add to what has been.”
-  Taro Gold, Open Your Mind, Open Your Life

Tip/Reminder
Think about and identify those habits you have that you could change for the better — a better you, a better relationship, better performance.

Time Out, Shift, Activate, Ask, Listen

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has many — not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.”
Charles Dickens

Tip/Reminder
Instead of “shoulding” on yourself at the end of the workday (“I should have done more”), use the Heart Lock-In® technique for just one minute, appreciating yourself and your blessings … of which you have many.

Shift, Feel Appreciation, Send Appreciation

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“Tolerance is the oil which takes the friction out of life.”
- Wilbert E. Scheer

Tip/Reminder
Ongoing judgments (judgmentalness) of yourself or others dilute your energy and block effectiveness with co-workers and yourself.  Eliminate your judgment of others and yourself by using the Freeze-Frame® technique to increase your tolerance.

Time Out, Shift, Activate, Ask, Listen

Freeze-Frame is a registered trademark of the Institute of HeartMath.

Emotional Intelligence Quote
“The moment that you choose your response, and do so freely and in full awareness, is the moment that you recreate yourself anew.”
- Neale Donald Walsh, Happier Than God

Tip/Reminder
Think for a minute of the tremendous power you have in choosing your emotions.  You truly can create yourself all throughout the day.

Time Out, Shift, Activate, Ask, Listen

Emotional Intelligence Quote
We have two choices: continue to blame the world for our stress or take responsibility for our own reactions and deliberately change our emotional climate.
Doc Childre and Howard Martin, The HeartMath Solution

Tip/Reminder
Response—ability.  Using the “What Am I Feeling Right Now?” technique is the first step in increasing your ability to respond in a way that is best for you.

What Am I Feeling Right Now?